I got laid off and right now i'm a stay at home dad. My wife has been providing food, diapers etc for me and our child for the last 2 months. So i'm basically home all day looking after our 14 month old daughter. My question is, when she's home do I have to continue to care of the our child, like changing diapers and feeding or she should take that all while I do other things like work on a script that I'm writing.
We just got into a huge fight about the parenting responsibilities. I feel that once she's home, i shouldnt have to change diapers because while she at work im the one doing it.How many times should I change diapers?
I change my son's diaper every couple hours about. I am a stay at home mom and even when my fiance is home I still take care of our 17 month old son.. Sometimes I would like a break but, I don't get one. It's okay because he works soo much and provides for us all.How many times should I change diapers?
You're staying home not making money, change the diapers! If the shoe was on the other foot, would you refuse to change diapers when you were home? If so then suck it. In our house it's the one that found it deals with it, unless you are eating or have some very good excuse not to - and we deal with it instead of wasting time fighting about it.How many times should I change diapers?
Ask her see if she is ok with taking that roll, but you also have to consider does she have to cook dinner and clean up?. if that is the case maybe you should continue to watch the baby until she is done then maybe she can just take over nap time.How many times should I change diapers?
all day! being a parent is a 24hr job you have no breaks! your wife needs time to relax when she gets home. she is and will always be mom but she needs downtime also. as for you work on your script when your daughter is sleep!How many times should I change diapers?
if your not working it is your job to care for your child. when you wife gets back from work you should let her rest for a while then alternate the diaper duty or what ever choresHow many times should I change diapers?
everytime your kid uses the bathroom duhHow many times should I change diapers?
every two hoursHow many times should I change diapers?
So she should work all day and then come home and take care of the baby too? That sounds fair. Sure it does. Why don't you guys both do some of it when she gets home, so that you both get some rest. Don't try to dump it all on her once she walks in the door. That's just harsh.
As for writing your script, you can do that after the kid goes to sleep, and when you have down time during the day. You have a much more flexible schedule than your wife, so cut her some slack. She is the one that is working right now. She is the one with a fixed schedule. You can run around all day in your bunny slippers, she can't. Writing is not something that MUST be done between 9-5 M-F. It is something that you can do when you have an hour here or there, or late at night. Trust me. I know. And yes, I have been published several times. So I am not totally ignorant when it comes to the nuts and bolts of it.
With regards to the diapers, generally every 2 hours is good. More if they need to be changed, less if the diaper is still dry.How many times should I change diapers?
Yes. You should still continue to help out for awhile after she has come home. At least give her some time to relax a little when she first comes in. If she comes in from working all day and you immediately dump the responsibility of caring for the child on her, she will be resentful towards you. Just like you feel as though you have been working all day while watching your daughter, she feels like this is work too. However, she is just coming from work. Give her time to unwind. After she has done this and has had sufficient time to completely relax, explain to her that you would like to go and work on your script and would appreciate her taking care of the baby while you do so. Say something nice before you leave (ie-- call me if you need me to do anything). This will let her know that you haven't just resigned for the rest of the evening, that you are understanding that she has needs to and you are being sensitive to this fact. This should help you to be able to keep the peace.
