Thursday, September 22, 2011

Do you ever forget how to change a diaper?

like noooooooooDo you ever forget how to change a diaper?
It's just like riding a bike. Once you get going, it just comes back to you.Do you ever forget how to change a diaper?
no...iit comes naturally with common sense....i mean iif u havent done iit n a whiile you miight feel a lil weird like i hope i have this diaper on riight...but u never forgetDo you ever forget how to change a diaper?
uh, no. it's pretty self explanatory. you take off, you wipe, you put new diaper back on with the design on the front and the stick tabs on the back. pull stick tabs around waist and secure onto design. my 7 year old sister can do it, so how could anyone forget?Do you ever forget how to change a diaper?
Can't say that I've ever forgottenDo you ever forget how to change a diaper?
i've been changing diapers every day for the past 13years (working in childcare, and now with my son as well) and even i sometimes put them on back to front when in a rush!Do you ever forget how to change a diaper?
No, but when my son was only about a week old my husband changed him and got him dressed without putting a diaper back on him LOL!



I awoke to my baby screaming bloody murder because he was wearing a fleece wearable blanket and had peed all in it.



I was irritated at the time but now we have a good laugh about it.Do you ever forget how to change a diaper?
not at allDo you ever forget how to change a diaper?
I don't think so. I first changed a nappy at about 7 years old, and didn't do it again until i was 20 and i didn't forget. There's not much to it, so it would be difficult to forget.

Saying that, when my granny watches my son, she seems to put them on backwards.Do you ever forget how to change a diaper?
It took me a couple of trys to remember how to FOLD a nappy (cloth square ones) when I was pregnant but once I remembered I was fine...can't say I have ever forgotten how to do the actual changing part though!!!!!Do you ever forget how to change a diaper?
that like asking if you ever forget how to put on pants.

I am 23 years old and have fectal and urinal incontinence. How do I change my diapers?

I have a son, also with incontinence who is five years old, but he is too young to change his own diapers. He is becoming embarrased when he is at school and he has to have the teacher change his diaper. How can I help him as well?I am 23 years old and have fectal and urinal incontinence. How do I change my diapers?
First of all, you reach down with your hands and take the diaper off, take wash cloth and clean your self and put another one on. Set the lad down and explain how to change the diaper, give him some wipes to carry to school with him. Have you seen a Doctor about this problem?I am 23 years old and have fectal and urinal incontinence. How do I change my diapers?
Maybe you can teach him how to use pull ups instead of a regular diaper, and send him with a few in his book bag, and speak with the school so they know why he needs to take his book bag with him to the restroom, this might help if he is feeling embarrassment, and be a more discreet way of going about it. I am sure it is hard - Hope you find something that works.I am 23 years old and have fectal and urinal incontinence. How do I change my diapers?
Use the kind you can tear on the side and get off easily or tape on the side, tear would be easier for your son. And they would would be easier to replace. Do you know or have you both been to see the Dr, I hope you have.===I am 23 years old and have fectal and urinal incontinence. How do I change my diapers?
5 years old? That's not young .. Well, try to teach him!I am 23 years old and have fectal and urinal incontinence. How do I change my diapers?
I am assuming you already have been assesed and diagnosed by a urologist correct? If not, than that is the first step you need to take.. There are several treatment plans and options that can make your life much easier.. Once you have been diagnosed, you can schedule a treatment consult with your physician and decide on your course of action.. This is not an uncommon issue with females.. especially after having children

As for you son- im not sure how normal this is.. You really need to consult his pediatrician on this issueI am 23 years old and have fectal and urinal incontinence. How do I change my diapers?
i suggest you both go to the doctor and find out what is wrong with you.

How many diapers you change each day?

My son has 2 years and 5 months, but I麓ve to change 4 diapers each day. First diaper when he woke up, second before lunch, third with poopies and last one before go sleep.How many diapers you change each day?
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No more! But I had to wait 3 years and 2 months for that moment to happen.How many diapers you change each day?
I have two little boys and its about four to five diapers each.How many diapers you change each day?
I have lost count!!!How many diapers you change each day?
I have an 18 month old son and he goes through 4-6 diapers a day.How many diapers you change each day?
4-6 depending on the day my son is 21 months old l yr and 8monthsHow many diapers you change each day?
Probably around 4How many diapers you change each day?
My son is 3 months and we probably go through about 8-10 a day.How many diapers you change each day?
I probably use about 8 on my son (he poops 3 times a day usually)

I also watch 2 other toddlers so about 7 more from them.



15 total...yuck!How many diapers you change each day?
i only changed twice, when my daughter takes her nap in the mornings and one at night though there are nights that i need to change her twice since her diaper is full but that is only occasionally

she wears underwear while she is awake, i am potty training her right now and plus it saves money on diapersHow many diapers you change each day?
4 diapers doesnt seem like a lot. Are you changing him after he pees and before the diaper gets saggy and loaded down? It varies for my 22 month old. If he has a lot of fresh fruits its a lot. If he eats more than one banana which is a lot - he's a little monkey, I swear, he poos less.How many diapers you change each day?
I change about 10-14 diapers a day. I got TWINS hopefully soon I wont have to!

How do I deal with husband who doesn't change diapers?

I am 25 and my husband is 34. He works and I stay at home with our two children because he makes plenty of money. I love him but he can be sort of an “old fashion” sort of guy, which is usually fine. However, he simply refuses to change diapers even when he has not put in a long day. It normally doesn’t bother me, but there are times I can’t do it and he just lets it go. He is a huge history buff and when I asked him to do it, he starts giving me a history lesson on the role of men and women in cultures and basically says this sort of thing is women’s work and he will never be some 21st century wimp. It is not like he is afraid of the mess. He has no problem gutting deer and doing any number of dirty jobs. I find it hard to debate him because he is an attorney and I end up feeling stupid. What can I do? I love him and our marriage is solid, but I just would like some help from him.How do I deal with husband who doesn%26039;t change diapers?
Taking care of two children can be a handful, but so can working full time. I personally think your husband should help you out once in a while, but I also think that you should be lucky that you don't have to put in a 40 hour week on top of being a mom, doing all the housework, cooking etc. Be thankful that your job is to stay at home and know how your children are being raised. Imagine if your husband couldn't make it on his own and you had to get a part time job, or worse you had to get a full time one and leave your kids at a daycare center with people you hardly know. Your husband may be stressed at work so changing a diaper might just be too much, even on his days off. A marriage should be equal and it is you and your husbands job to decide what is a fair trade off.How do I deal with husband who doesn%26039;t change diapers?
just tell him that he had as much fun making the babies as you did and a simple diaper change isn't going to make or break history but it could break your relationship.How do I deal with husband who doesn%26039;t change diapers?
If you feel intellectually intimidated it's not a real marriage. Tell him to shove the history lesson and do what needs to be done.How do I deal with husband who doesn%26039;t change diapers?
I'm sorry that he doesn't realize that he is a father and sometimes a father has to do the mundane tasks in caring for his children. I would be furious if I had to leave the kids with my husband for a day and he refused to change a diaper and the child got super bad diaper rash as a result. That could be considered neglect, surely a lawyer should understand THAT.



If he does help out around the house in other ways though, I wouldn't make a mountain out of a molehill. I would come up with an agreement. You will change all diapers, unless you aren't there to do it (in which case, he should, lest he be charged with neglect), and he does something else ALWAYS that you never have to do, like mow the lawn, take out trash, etc. Make sure it's a chore that you despise that you swap him for.How do I deal with husband who doesn%26039;t change diapers?
If his whole thing is how it is the 21st century wimp who changes diapers you can tell him it is also the 21st century wimp who gets sex in positions other than the missionary position as well as blow jobs. Hun you need to explain to him that you have the P.O.P (power of p@ssy) and if he ever wants to get any ever again he better think twice about his position on diaper changing!!How do I deal with husband who doesn%26039;t change diapers?
For me the most manly attractive thing a male can do is take care of his children.



To me HE sounds like a wimp!



My husband is the most masculine guy you could meet, but he has never refused to change a nappy (diaper), he also works long hours sometimes 12 hours a day 7 days a week, but without fail he will ALWAYS bath and put his little girl to bed.



Just tell him your concerned, ask him what would happen if you died and he had to take care of the children?



tell him he needs to learn how to become a daddy.



EDIT LOL YADDA YADDA!!



She is so right, tell him there are plenty of other pre-21st century traditions you could carry out, such as the missionary position, wearing a floral dress 21/7, wearing those big frilly knickers to bed ect ect.How do I deal with husband who doesn%26039;t change diapers?
Sounds like a thoughtful guy. :-) The best thing you can do is sit him down and tell him in a calm, mature, respectful way that you would appreciate it if he would help you by changing the childrens' diapers now and then. Tell him (again, very respectfully and calmly) that you have no interest in how people throughout history delegated this responsibility, you are concerned with here, now, in your own household, and you need his help. Explain to him why it isn't fair to the children to let them sit in dirty or wet diapers (diaper rash, etc), and that it is his responsibility as a father to see that his children are comfortable, healthy, and properly cared for, and there is no way around it. Be firm but respectful, and be willing to compromise. Maybe there is something he wishes you would do that you're not doing - be willing to accomodate him if he is willing to accomodate you. If all else fails and he is otherwise a good husband, you might just have to let this battle go -- after all, the kids won't be in diapers forever! Good luck!How do I deal with husband who doesn%26039;t change diapers?
Your husband isn't a history buff -- he's trying to guilt you into doing it. (You're marriage sounds like it has more deep-seeded power issues than can be addressed here)



Historically, there wasn't a huge division between home and work (that only came about during the Industrial Revolution when people had to go to the machines) So, even when the roles for men and women were there, they weren't as ridged as your husband would like you to believe.





HINT: Parents don't babysit -- they parent!! It shouldn't be about %26quot;being nice to you%26quot; it's about doing what needs to be done for the family to succeed.



Finally, changing dippers is a bonding experience for him and the baby. Many fathers find it to be quality time w/ baby because they don't get to have the nursing experience.How do I deal with husband who doesn%26039;t change diapers?
It's a futile debate cuz he'll always think he's right and you're wrong. Don't even waste your time tryin to reason with him, cuz obviously you can't.



Instead I suggest you stop doing something, maybe something that he should be doing. Or with holding sex or certain sexual favors might do the trick. And when he complains about it, come up with some stupid history lesson, just make it up if you have to. %26quot;Well back in the 1800's women didn't give bj's cuz that wasn't their role...blah blah blah%26quot; Or something lol.How do I deal with husband who doesn%26039;t change diapers?
I agree with all these answers. He doesn't feel like it's his job to change a diaper, so you should tell him it's not YOUR job to go down on him...



And about the whole %26quot;role of Man%26quot;, tell him a REAL man takes care of his family, supports and provides for them. And changing a diaper would be support.How do I deal with husband who doesn%26039;t change diapers?
Tell him how you feel. They are his kids to. And there should be fifty fifty effort into taking care of YALL kids.How do I deal with husband who doesn%26039;t change diapers?
Oh that would not fly if it were me.. I am blessed that my husband was always willing to help with things like this. If I were in your shoes, I would tell him that they are his children to and you are his wife and history or no history, this aint 1909 its 2009 and he can get his butt up and help.How do I deal with husband who doesn%26039;t change diapers?
he sounds like a pussy! a lazy one at that!



i think he is just pushing you to see what he can get away with.



i always use the 'have you fed her and changed her?' if i have left baby with hubby for a while. then if he says no, i say oh thanks alot! she's got nappy rash at the moment and you just let her sit in a s*hitty nappy for a couple of hours. i told you she had a rash this morning......



wether she actually does have a rash or not - a little guilt trip goes a long way...... also the little white lie about telling him about the rash will make him feel bad for not listening to you....



sneaky i know, but he's not playing fair either!



lolsHow do I deal with husband who doesn%26039;t change diapers?
A real man, a strong man, will do whatever they can for their familes. Including changing diapers.

Wimps are scared of diapers. Men aren't.



Tell him you find nothing sexier than a man caring for an infant. You would find it a great personal favor if he would change one diaper for you.How do I deal with husband who doesn%26039;t change diapers?
Ha, I'd hand him a dirty baby and simply say %26quot;Well start making history, change this kid!%26quot; and walk away.How do I deal with husband who doesn%26039;t change diapers?
Isn't this something you discussed before you had kids? Rather you realize it or not (or if it's ok with you or not) he's belittling you. I'd tell him a real man is not afraid to be fully involved in his children's upbringing, no matter how menial the task.How do I deal with husband who doesn%26039;t change diapers?
my husband is like that,well, he doesnt straight refuse to do it, he is much trickier than that. he, instead, opts to fling poo everywhere and/or step in it, he cusses and generally turns an easy job into a chore....so i just do it. my husband is a moron.

How do you carry a nearing 1-month baby?

Well, I'm 13 and I have a newborn cousin here.(yeah he's the youngest) he is going to be one month in july 20.



Because of this, I want to know how to take care of a baby(at least learn). I just got interested in nursing babies. I know how to feed him but I cannot carry him.



How do you carry a baby when he's lying on the bed? How do you change diapers anyway? Just curious.How do you carry a nearing 1-month baby?
this is what i do. kinda hard to explain but here goes...



baby on the bed. slip a hand under his neck and nape and the other around his bum. and pick him up. slowly shift his bum to your arm and your other hand so his head and neck is resting on you other arm.



diaper change. lay him on the bed. remove his pants (and top if neccessary) undo the diapers. lift his legs up by the ankles and slide the diaper away from him. wipe him off. open up the new diaper, lift his legs up again and slide in the diapers. put his feet down and adjust his diapers and put them on.How do you carry a nearing 1-month baby?
Y! answers probably isn't your best bet to answer this question.

http://pregnancy.about.com/cs/newbornbab

Found the basics on this site.How do you carry a nearing 1-month baby?
For diaper changing, collect everything you will need as close to you and the baby as possible so you will never have to leave him unattended or let him out of your grasp at any time during the procedure: changing pad, washcloth, fresh clean diaper, plastic garbage bag or airtight container next to your work area, body wash or soap and water source, safety pins or skin friendly tape if needed and baby oil or skin shield against chafing, rash and moisture for infant skin. The main thing to keep in mind when diapering an infant is to Gently and always pay attention to and support the normal, forward position of his head and neck. Avoid jerking and sudden movements of those areas. Change his diaper on top of a disposable padded surface because it will likely, get soiled as the soiled diaper is removed from under him by turning him on his side and gently removing it as you fold the soiled diaper so it does not spread and run. Dispose of the soiled diaper properly in a sealed plastic bag or airtight container so as not to offend others in the vicinity. After that, clean the baby's skin thoroughly with a soft washcloth dampened with soap and water or hypoallergenic body wash and remove all soapy residue from his skin with a damp wash cloth or soft, moist towel. Then, with clean warm and moist hands, apply a baby oil or infant skin protection against chafing, rash and dryness to the rectal and around the genital areas. Slightly raise the baby's hips, firmly supporting his back and slide the back of the diaper under him with the soft side next to his skin. Bring the middle of the diaper (crotch pad) over the baby's rectal/genital area covering it completely. Fasten the front sides of the diaper to the back sides of the diaper with the seals provided by most modern diapers. If using old fashioned cloth diapers, fasten with a shielded pin with the point facing away from the baby's body. The diaper should fit around the baby's waist when fastened without tightness or sagging. Make any adjustments as needed. The baby should not be crying or uncomfortable when you are finished. When lifting a baby from the bed, place one hand firmly under the back of his head and the other arm securely around his body before you lift him. Always watch where you are going when carrying an infant to avoid losing your own balance and your firm support of his weight and his head as you move forward holding him. Place him gently on his back when repositioning him in his next location. Best wishes.How do you carry a nearing 1-month baby?
You have to carry the baby in your hands.
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  • How do you get 7 month old twins to sleep all night?

    I have a set of fraternal twin girls who are still getting up every 3-4 hours. I bathe, feed and put them to bed at 8. They are full but they still wake up like clock work. I go and feed, change diapers and put them back in bed and they go directly back to sleep. When one wakes it wakes up the other who seems to be trying to sleep but can't. Do you think they are waking up just for the bottle or what?How do you get 7 month old twins to sleep all night?
    Try bathing your babies with lavender baby wash %26amp; lather them up in lavender baby lotion right before bed. Get the real good all-natural baby wash %26amp; baby lotion from the health food store as it has actual lavender in it %26amp; not just perfume faking to be lavender.



    Also check for lavender scented sachets at the health food store. Find one that is microwavable %26amp; heat it %26amp; put it in the babies' room before bed.



    Try changing diapers in complete silence as to not stimulate the babies. Also check for night time diapers in their size as they absorb more %26amp; babies do not feel as wet as soon.



    Instead of giving them breast milk or baby formula when they wake up at night, give them a little pure bottled water instead. The babies usually don't like the water %26amp; will quit waking up to feed in response.



    If you have an extra bed room, try putting a crib in there %26amp; split the babies up temporarily. I know all the twin moms are going to throw hate my way for this but it sometimes has to be done.How do you get 7 month old twins to sleep all night?
    mix rice or oatmeal cereal with their formula at night and their little stomachs would be full. that would make them sleep until the morning. guarnteeHow do you get 7 month old twins to sleep all night?
    Shorter naps during the day.

    Good luck!How do you get 7 month old twins to sleep all night?
    No I don't think so I think they wake up bcuz they are ready. When I had my 1st set of twins i had a boy and girl, I put them in the same crib bcuz every time I seperated them they will act a fool so when I put them together they slept through the whole well except when they wanted to get change or was hungry their 10 now. And my other set girl and boy their 3 months now when I put them down I change their diapers and feed them I take the boy and lay him in his crib and put music on for him and stays asleep and only wakes up when he's hungry or needs a diaper change, and my girl I put music on for her and lay her on my chest and rock her to sleep and she wakes only when she's hungry or needs a diaper change too.How do you get 7 month old twins to sleep all night?
    lol...poor mom!!! You are doing everything right. It is just going to take tiime. Remember...they are only 7 months! Good luck!How do you get 7 month old twins to sleep all night?
    That's a hard question to answer. I have twin fraternal boys,but their 20 years old now. Mine would wake up to,but only sometimes. It may be that they have their days and nights mixed up. I remember that I used to keep them up longer during the day,they would be more tired at night then they would sleep all night.I also would give them a pacifier too. Maybe they know that you are going to give them a bottle if they cry. I would let mine cry for a little bit not much though.If you will show them that your not going to give them a bottle everytime they wake up that might stop them,and then they will sleep all night.I wish I could be more help but it's been years since I've had babies. My youngest is going on 14 now so as you can tell I'm out of practice. Good Luck.How do you get 7 month old twins to sleep all night?
    Sounds like you are on the right track. I would recommend putting a little rice baby cereal in their last bottle of the night. You might have to make the nipple to the bottle a little larger. Doctors do not recommend it,but smart rested moms have been doing it forever!!!How do you get 7 month old twins to sleep all night?
    8 INFANT SLEEP FACTS EVERY PARENT SHOULD KNOW

    In order to better understand the how-to's of getting you and your baby to enjoy going to sleep and staying asleep, here are some important principles of sleep that every new parent needs to understand.



    1. How you sleep. After dressing or undressing for bed, most adults help themselves relax for sleep by performing various bedtime rituals: reading, listening to music, watching TV, or having sex. As you drift into sleep, your higher brain centers begin to rest; enabling you to enter the stage of deep sleep called %26quot;non-REM%26quot; (non-rapid eye movement -- NREM), or deep sleep (also called quiet sleep). Your mind and body are quietest during this stage of sleep. Your body is still, your breathing is shallow and regular, your muscles are loose, and you're really %26quot;zonked.%26quot; After about an hour and a half in this quiet sleep stage, your brain begins to %26quot;wake up%26quot; and start working, which brings you out of your deep sleep and into light sleep or active sleep, called rapid eye movement or %26quot;REM%26quot; sleep. During this stage of sleep your eyes actually move under your eyelids as your brain exercises. You dream and stir, turn over, and may even adjust the covers without fully awakening. It is during this sleep stage that you may fully awaken to go to the bathroom, then return to bed and fall back into a deep sleep. These alternating cycles of light and deep sleep continue every couple hours throughout the night, so that a typical adult may spend an average of six hours in quiet sleep and two hours in active sleep. Thus, you do not sleep deeply all night, even though you may feel as though you do.



    2. How babies enter sleep. You're rocking, walking, or nursing your baby and her eyelids droop as she begins to nod off in your arms. Her eyes close completely, but her eyelids continue to flutter and her breathing is still irregular. Her hands and limbs are flexed, and she may startle, twitch, and show fleeting smiles, called %26quot;sleep grins.%26quot; She may even continue a flutter-like sucking. Just as you bend over to deposit your %26quot;sleeping%26quot; baby in her crib so you can creep quietly away, she awakens and cries. That's because she wasn't fully asleep. She was still in the state of light sleep when you put her down. Now try your proven bedtime ritual again, but continue this ritual longer (about twenty more minutes). You will notice that baby's grimaces and twitches stop; her breathing becomes more regular and shallow, her muscles completely relax. Her fisted hands unfold and her arms and limbs dangle weightlessly. Martha and I call this %26quot;limp-limb%26quot; sign of deep sleep. Baby is now in a deeper sleep, allowing you to put her down and sneak away, breathing a satisfying sigh of relief that baby is finally resting comfortably.



    NIGHTTIME PARENTING LESSON 1:

    Babies need to be parented to sleep, not just put to sleep. Some babies can be put down while drowsy yet still awake and drift

    others need parental help by being rocked or nursed to sleep.



    The reason is that while adults can usually go directly into the state of deep sleep, infants in the early months enter sleep through an initial period of light sleep. After twenty minutes or more they gradually enter deep sleep, from which they are not so easily aroused. As you probably know from experience, if you try to rush your baby to bed while she is still in the initial light sleep period, she will usually awaken. Many parents tell me: %26quot;My baby has to be fully asleep before I can put her down.%26quot; In later months, some babies can enter deep sleep more quickly, bypassing the lengthy light sleep stage. Learn to recognize your baby's sleep stages. Wait until your baby is in a deep sleep stage before transitioning her from one sleeping place to another, such as from your bed to a crib or from carseat to bed or crib.



    3. Babies have shorter sleep cycles than you do. Stand adoringly next to your sleeping baby and watch him sleep. About an hour after he goes to sleep, he begins to squirm, he tosses a bit, his eyelids flutter, his face muscles grimace, he breathes irregularly, and his muscles tighten. He is reentering the phase of light sleep. The time of moving from deep to light sleep is a vulnerable period during which many babies will awaken if any upsetting or uncomfortable stimulus, such as hunger, occurs. If the baby does not awaken, he will drift through this light sleep period over the next ten minutes, and descend back into deep sleep. Adult sleep cycles (going from light to deep sleep, and then back to light sleep) lasts an average of 90 minutes. Infants' sleep cycles are shorter, lasting 50 to 60 minutes, so they experience a vulnerable period for nightwaking around every hour or even less. As your baby enters this light sleep, if you lay a comforting hand on your baby's back, sing a soothing lullaby, or just be there next to baby if he is in your bed; you can help him get through this light sleep period without waking.



    NIGHTTIME PARENTING LESSON 2:

    Some babies need help getting back to sleep.

    Some %26quot;resettlers%26quot; or %26quot;self-soothers%26quot; can go through this vulnerable period without completely awakening, and if they do wake up, they can ease themselves back into a deep sleep. Other babies need a helping hand, voice, or breast to resettle back into deep sleep. From these unique differences in sleep cycle design, we learn that one of the goals of nighttime parenting is to create a sleeping environment that helps baby go through this vulnerable period of nightwaking and reenter deep sleep without waking up.



    4. Babies don't sleep as deeply as you do. Not only do babies take longer to go to sleep and have more frequent vulnerable periods for nightwaking; they have twice as much active, or lighter, sleep as adults. At first glance, this hardly seems fair to parents tired from daylong baby care. Yet, if you consider the developmental principle that babies sleep the way they do -- or don't -- for a vital reason, it may be easier for you to understand your baby's nighttime needs and develop a nighttime parenting style that helps rather than harms your baby's natural sleep rhythms. Here's where I'm at odds with modern sleep trainers who advise a variety of gadgets and techniques designed to help baby sleep more deeply through the night -- for a price, and perhaps at a risk.



    5. Nightwaking has survival benefits. In the first few months, babies' needs are the highest, but their ability to communicate their needs is the lowest. Suppose a baby slept deeply most of the night. Some basic needs would go unfulfilled. Tiny babies have tiny tummies, and mother's milk is digested very rapidly. If a baby's stimulus for hunger could not easily arouse her, this would not be good for baby's survival. If baby's nose was stuffed and she could not breathe, or was cold and needed warmth, and her sleep state was so deep that she could not communicate her needs, her survival would be jeopardized.



    One thing we have learned during our years in pediatrics is that babies do what they do because they're designed that way. In the case of infant sleep, research suggests that active sleep protects babies. Suppose your baby sleeps like an adult, meaning predominantly deep sleep. Sounds wonderful! For you, perhaps, but not for baby. Suppose baby had a need for warmth, food, or even unobstructed air, but because he was sleeping so deeply he couldn't arouse to recognize and act on these needs. Baby's well being could be threatened. It appears that babies come wired with sleep patterns that enable them to awaken in response to circumstances that threaten their well being. We believe, and research supports, that frequent stages of active (REM) sleep serve the best physiologic interest of babies during the early months, when their well being is most threatened.



    NIGHTTIME PARENTING LESSON 3:

    Encouraging a baby to sleep too deeply, too soon, may not be in the best survival or developmental interest of the baby. This is why new parents, vulnerable to sleep trainers' claims of getting their baby to sleep through the night, should not feel pressured to get their baby to sleep too long, too deeply, too soon.

    6. Nightwaking has developmental benefits. Sleep researchers believe that babies sleep %26quot;smarter%26quot; than adults do. They theorize that light sleep helps the brain develop because the brain doesn't rest during REM sleep. In fact, blood flow to the brain nearly doubles during REM sleep. (This increased blood flow is particularly evident in the area of the brain that automatically controls breathing.) During REM sleep the body increases its manufacture of certain nerve proteins, the building blocks of the brain. Learning is also thought to occur during the active stage of sleep. The brain may use this time to process information acquired while awake, storing what is beneficial to the individual and discarding what is not. Some sleep researchers believe that REM sleeps acts to auto-stimulate the developing brain, providing beneficial imagery that promotes mental development. During the light sleep stage, the higher centers of the brain keep operating, yet during deep sleep these higher brain centers shut off and the baby functions on her lower brain centers. It is possible that during this stage of rapid brain growth (babies' brains grow to nearly seventy percent of adult volume during the first two years) the brain needs to continue functioning during sleep in order to develop. It is interesting to note that premature babies spend even more of their sleep time (approximately 90 percent) in REM sleep, perhaps to accelerate their brain growth. As you can see, the period of life when humans sleep the most and the brain is developing the most rapidly is also the time when they have the most active sleep. One day as I was explaining the theory that light sleep helps babies' brains develop, a tired mother of a wakeful infant chuckled and said, %26quot;If that's true, my baby's going to be very smart.%26quot;



    7. As they grow, babies achieve sleep maturity. %26quot;Okay,%26quot; you say, %26quot;I understand this developmental design, but when will my baby sleep through the night?%26quot; The age at which babies settle ?meaning they go to sleep easily and stay asleep varies widely among babies. Some babies go to sleep easily, but don't stay asleep. Others go to sleep with difficulty but will stay asleep. Other exhausting babies neither want to go to sleep nor stay asleep.



    In the first three months, tiny babies seldom sleep for more than four-hour stretches without needing a feeding. Tiny babies have tiny tummies. Yet, they usually sleep a total of 14-18 hours a day. From three to six months, most babies begin to settle. They are awake for longer stretches during the day and some may sleep five-hour stretches at night. Between three to six months, expect one or two nightwakings. You will also see the period of deep sleep lengthen. The vulnerable periods for nightwaking decrease and babies are able to enter deep sleep more quickly. This is called sleep maturity.



    NIGHTTIME PARENTING LESSON 4:

    An important fact for you to remember is that your baby's sleep habits are more a reflection of your baby's temperament rather than your style of nighttime parenting. And keep in mind that other parents usually exaggerate how long their baby sleeps, as if this were a badge of good parenting, which it isn't. It's not your fault baby wakes up.

    8. Babies still wake up. When babies mature into these adult-like sleep patterns varies among babies. Yet, even though babies achieve this sleep maturity some time during the last half of the first year, many still wake up. The reason? Painful stimuli, such as colds and teething pain, become more frequent. Major developmental milestones, such as sitting, crawling, and walking, drive babies to %26quot;practice%26quot; their new developmental skills in their sleep. Then between one and two years of age, when baby begins to sleep through the above-mentioned wake-up stimuli, other causes of nightwaking occur, such as separation anxiety and nightmares.



    Even though you understand why babies are prone to nightwaking, you realize it's still important for parents and babies to get a restful night's sleep, otherwise, baby, the parents, and their relationship won't thriveHow do you get 7 month old twins to sleep all night?
    My Dear, I don't have an answer. I just send my compassion. Good luck.

    How should I deal with husband who doesn’t change diapers?

    I am 25 and my husband is 34. He works and I stay at home with our two children because he makes plenty of money. I love him but he can be sort of an “old fashion” sort of guy, which is usually fine. However, he simply refuses to change diapers even when he has not put in a long day. It normally doesn’t bother me, but there are times I can’t do it and he just lets it go. He is a huge history buff and when I asked him to do it, he starts giving me a history lesson on the role of men and women in cultures and basically says this sort of thing is women’s work and he will never be some 21st century wimp. It is not like he is afraid of the mess. He has no problem gutting deer and doing any number of dirty jobs. I find it hard to debate him because he is an attorney and I end up feeling stupid. What can I do? I love him and our marriage is solid, but I just would like some help from him.How should I deal with husband who doesn’t change diapers?
    If I were you, I would find other ways for him to help. My husband was OK with the diaper thing, but his brother just would hardly ever change a diaper (and they had 4 kids). He would go to great lengths to avoid it. We all have things we really hate to do. Respect that this is one of them for your husband. Find other ways for him to help. I'm sure there are things that he does that you never do (for me it would be any car repairs). Consider diaper changing a thing he won't do. Either that - or you could keep pushing it and creating friction. The diaper days will eventually end, your marriage and the peace at home can last a lifetime.How should I deal with husband who doesn’t change diapers?
    Some guys are like that. You have to be patient with such people and wait for an opportunity to make them understand. Al this because you you say you love him.How should I deal with husband who doesn’t change diapers?
    i would not complain some women would kill to be stay at home moms

    if he's the only one working than i feel it is your job, it would be diffrent if you both worked fulltime jobs and had children . good luck with thatHow should I deal with husband who doesn’t change diapers?
    God it's hard to argue with attorneys!!! BAH! How frustrating. No valid argument will get you in...I suggest fighting fire with fire. If he's so into the %26quot;roles%26quot; then I suggest you save sexual relations for procreation...I mean %26quot;after all honey, just like you said, the roles where clearly defined pre turn of the century, sexual intercourse is reserved only for procreation!%26quot; I also suggest buffing up on your history. Google family roles pre 1800s and that way when he brings up that load of crap, you can fling some right back.How should I deal with husband who doesn’t change diapers?
    Force him, its his child. Hes an attorney, well Tell him to stop being a sexist. Its his child and he has to help.How should I deal with husband who doesn’t change diapers?
    Obviously you knew that your husband had these views before you married him. You wouldn't have married him without discussing roles in the marriage, finances, family, etc.



    Right?



    You're stuck with him.How should I deal with husband who doesn’t change diapers?
    It's a %26quot;bottom-line%26quot; for him.

    I suggest you not press it.



    This also means once the child is of age you are essential done raising him and he takes over, especially if they are boys.How should I deal with husband who doesn’t change diapers?
    Just ask him if it is okay to put a child's health at risk by not changing a diaper. This can affect the health of a child, and he should know that would be considered child neglect. Tell him you don't live in the past but in the present, You also tell him that he isn't being a 21st century wimp, but an inconsiderate parent and husband. Because he brings in the money doesn't mean his responsibility stops there. You show love in many different ways, and he really doesn't do what is best for his children.How should I deal with husband who doesn’t change diapers?
    If you love him, change the diapers yourself and don't worry about it.